Kate

Well I thank you all for your diligent prayers, and I can say yes they are being answered. I have never been faced with communicating with so many people about so many things in one week. It has been crazy.
First of all I want to apologize for not blogging lately. There is one reason for this, I needed to talk about my feelings, not imply them on some webpage that I know (he) reads. I didn't feel it was right anymore to just log-on to someone’s page and read how they are doing and what problems they have. I felt that if I respect and trust this person enough then I should be able to say it too there face. Personally I was getting a little weirded about by having communication based on whether I blogged that day. So as for my Great piece of mind today I say; If there is someone you need to talk to about something resist blogging it and tell them in person, they may appreciate it coming from you, and who knows it may even dramatically change they way you think about them!!! ;)

I am going to miss you all and you especially (mhm you know who you are) as I am in Michigan with chorale this week, please be praying for safe travels! Love you all
And Car.. You are coming super soon!!!! YEAH

posted by Kate Patterson @ Friday, February 28, 2003 0 comments

Where do you go once you have reached an understanding? When everything has been said that has to be said, is this what you call the point of no return? Things changed last night for someone and I, Communication that is what happened. It can be the best thing in the world or not depending on what is being communicated. No matter when is being said communication is always something that needs to be done
Sometimes I find it quite ironic because the more we talk the more we think about things we shouldn't necessarily think about!
I don't really know what is going on with this person and our talk just consisted of an apology, which is a great basis to continue communication. You see in the past communication and I were never really used in the same sentence a positive way. I am not one to talk and if you don't know me outside of Bethany's world then for me to open up to you takes time.
At this particular point in time communication seems to be the main thing on my mind, I realize that in all situations I am in now or trying to re establish I need to say exactly how I feel as not to lead the other person on. A great friend of Johns is here right now, Juliana.. We have had a chance to talk (especially since she is staying in my room) She is wise in giving me advice, and the main point that is always said in "Communication" (sigh)
Why do we all struggle with this...Our lives are based on communication with people... yet it is the hardest this to do in a friendship/relationship....
I just want to ask you as my readers for prayer that God can work in this part of my life, to help me communicate better with those who really want to know who I am. With this I leave you be, Have an awesome day and tell someone one you appreciate them today!




ANOTHER NOTE: IN 9 MONTHS TODAY I WILL BE 19!!!! YIPPY AND THE COUNTDOWN BEGINS

posted by Kate Patterson @ Monday, February 17, 2003 0 comments

For anyone who has been following I have asked a lot of questions concerning life/reality in previous blogs. I have come to the realization that I don't have the answers, nor will I ever learn the answers... without the help of Jesus.
Why do we as Christians take these problems upon ourselves and assume we know everything? Like we can really handle anything. Honestly with out trusting in the Lord we are all a bunch or useless bodies walking around depressed 75% of the time.

I have learned a lot in the last month coming back to Bethany, some things that I should have already known and others life lessons I will never forget. One thing that people generally struggle with is the lesson of Forgiveness. Christians especially, the Bible teaches us in the Lords prayer “Forgive us our debts, as we also forgiven our debtors.” When do you know if you have actually forgiven someone…? Maybe it is not a question of forgiveness but of trust. As I asked before what do you do when someone hurts you without even meaning to do it… I am attempting to understand why things of this matter happen. I know one other person whom I share (you know who you are) things with and is experiencing the same daily anguish as I. We sometimes come to conclusions with things and then something else is thrown into the equation. Through all of it though we keep each other accountable to “put our safety bar down, and to guard our hearts” I really appreciate my friendship with this person and I just want to thank you for being there to talk to! As for getting back to being able to forgive…. There is this weird feeling you get when someone has done something and you are attempting to get through the tough situations. It is so easy to fall back into routine and want what you used to have. We must not forget to listen to the little instinctive feelings we get sometimes when we know things just aren’t right or they are never really going to be the same again. This is the obstacle that I find truly hard to overcome not only from recent past issues but long term ones that occurred when I was just little. Which in turn can cause getting over things of the same cause harder even though they are not of the same magnitude, although at the time they hurt just as much. Am I making any sense? Right now I am torn in a situation, battling what my mind says and what my heart is telling me… I wish no one to be in the predicament that I have seemed to have fallen into once again; it is definitely a difficult one to sort through.
As for trying to get through things, I have learned to take on day at a time. Give people a second chance, God loves us so much he gave all of us second chances, and then some…so give someone the benefit of the doubt, cause if you don’t you may be missing something great.

There is a time for healing
There is a time for purposes under the sun
There is a time for laughter
There is a time to let go and a time to hold on

So we are here
Why are we waiting?
Why are we acting like dead men walking?
The time has arrived
For us to arise
Joining our hands
United together

For this is our time to be strong
This is our time to rise up
To stand and be counted
This is our time to believe
You know in our God we are free
Let the world know to Him we belong

Lord, capture our hearts now
Drowned out the pleasures and treasures that bind us
Give us your courage
To be strong to be brave and to never back down
There is no time to loose
We can’t be silent
For a world that is dying to find out the truth
We’ve got the hope
We’ve got the answer
Lay down our own with reckless abandon

For this is our time to be strong
This is our time to rise up
To stand and be counted
This is our time to believe
You know in our God we are free
Let the world know to Him we belong

posted by Kate Patterson @ Friday, February 07, 2003 0 comments

Well I just want to say Hi to Nicole Drake, HELLO !!!

TRUST

Treasure the friendship you have and
Rely on the other person when you need to,
Usually this requires honesty, and truth...
Stepping into the unknown and
Trusting they will always be there with you.
-Kate Patterson

What happens when they leave?

posted by Kate Patterson @ Tuesday, February 04, 2003 0 comments

AVOID THE 90 - 10 TRAP
To me, this is one of the strangest habits that people get into. What’s more, it seems to afflict almost everybody. Once you see how crazy and illogical it is, however, I'm hoping that you too will see it as a trap.
The "90 - 10 trap" stems from an observation I've made (that has been verified by hundreds of people) that most of us tend to focus our attention, thinking, and conversations on the worst 10 percent of our lives. The 90 stands for 90 percent of what happens during our day, which is usually pretty good, and the 10 percent for the remaining 10 percent, which is usually problematic and filled with hassle.
I call it a trap because most people seem to focus on what's wrong with life instead of what is, generally, okay. Obviously, ever day is different and some days really are bad. But that way it typically plays out is this: Suppose, for illustration's sake, that you had ten things to do during the day. Nine of them go reasonably well. The other one doesn't. Which one do you think about that evening? Which one do you discuss with your parents, siblings, or friends? You get the idea.
Suppose, in addition, that you interact with ten people that day. Nine of them were pleasant and respectful, but the other one was a real Jerk! Rarely, when I've asked people about their day, has someone said, "You know, it was a pretty good day. Almost everyone was nice to me and friendly." Instead, a more typical answer might be, " There was this real jerk, and let me tell you what he did."
Let me assure you that I'm not making a case for not sharing the dramatic parts of you day or the hassles or problems. I'm also not suggesting that it's always necessary to focus in what's good and right with your life. That's going way to far. I'm suggesting that the 90 percent (or 80 or 70 or whatever the percentage happens to be) is also worthy of at least some attention.
It would be like looking at a beautiful painting and, instead of appreciating the beauty, focusing on the fact that you don't like the artist's signature. Again, I'm not saying you have to like the signature, but it might be a good idea to ask yourself why it is that you automatically focus on the one part you don’t like. If you focus more on what you like, you'll enjoy the painting far more than if you zero in on the poor signature. Likewise, you'll enjoy your life more and have a better experience if you focus a greater percentage of your attention on the parts that go well instead of the zeroing in on the problems and hassles.
The idea here is to simply become aware of the tendency and to notice when you're focusing too much on the negative. What sometimes happens when you apply this strategy is that you'll begin to realize that, while there are aspects of life that are hard and stressful, there are also many things to be grateful for. And when you notice those things - and think about them and talk about them - your life will seem better and a bit less stressful. It's easier to deal with the stress and hassles of life when you're also aware of what's right with your life.
Just for fun, the next time you talk to your parents or a friend, ask them to tell you about the best part of their day. Ask then if they had any good experiences or whether anyone was exceptionally kind, funny, or whatever. Ask them if they had a nice lunch or if they had any interesting ideas. You'll probably catch them off guard! On the other hand, you'll be helping them to experience the other part of life - the good part.
- Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, Richard Carlson


If you know me well, you have heard my theories on always being positive.... I mean how many people in this world have a theme of the day, an attitude theme that is. I do believe happiness will find everyone, someday. As long as we stay positive and remember to rely on God, and a smile goes a long way!! Forgiveness is possible and life does go on, just keep your head high and be the best you can be, others will notice. Always focus on the positive never dwell on the negative.

~*~ KATES INSIGHT FOR THE DAY ~*~

posted by Kate Patterson @ Monday, February 03, 2003 0 comments